Sometimes, even with understanding, dispondency falls like a grey cloud, hovering a few inches above our heads, threatening rain. I look up at my cloud, tempted to shake my fist at it, scare it away; the trouble is, the cloud likes that, it thrives on it so, far from retreating, it absorbs the frustration and puffs itself up in defiance.

In many ways, I have a full life. However, there often seems to be something missing. I love my family, my home, my friends, my voluntary work....but, it is the natural human condition to crave a soul-mate, a companion, a lover. In my current circumstances, there are few opportunities to find one. Most of my male friends are attached and are, to be frank, just friends. Most new people I meet, when they hear that I am an independent Mum to 7, though 3 of them are now fairly self sufficient, glaze over and make their excuses. Maybe they think I'm after a replacement Dad for my childre, which is not the case. Maybe they think I will want more, which is also untrue. What I would like is someone to spend time with, to go out with, for walks or theatre trips. I am not on the lookout for someone to move in and play happy families.

So, how does one go about finding such a person?

Having read The Secret and Abraham Hicks, even Paul McKenna, I know what techniques should work. In the short term, they do, but seeing through the veil can take a lot of strength at times. I visualise myself in all sorts of wonderful situations with the perfect companion, and positive things happen. However, a slight rejection, even from someone you know isn't the right person anyway, can be tough. So, I return to my visualisations and affirmations: "I am happy, loved and honoured by my kind, faithful, healthy soulmate," was recommended to me. It feels good to say it.

Another tip is to bring what you desire into the present. Instead of wanting, have gratitude for already having. It sounds a little wierd, but it works. It works quickly with things I'm not too bothered about. Sometimes, striving too haard can actually push things away.

Also, as we are in a group consciousness, I would like you all to visualise me now, happy, loving and loved by the man of my dreams.

Thankyou